I am really good at what I do. But one of my “secrets” is that I just don’t do what I’m not good at! Sometimes that is a strength, and sometimes it is a weakness. Its good to recognize what you are good at and what you are not, but sometimes I miss opportunities by quitting too soon.
I originally was going to double major in math and physics when I went to college. I skipped the first year of both by passing AP tests. I walked into that second year physics class and realized it was going to be hard – and I quit. That decision didn’t “hurt” me, but it did mean I missed learning some things in far more detail. It kept my grades higher of course, but that was a short-term win that maybe never mattered anyhow.
I love music, but I have a love/hate relationship with it. Some of it is mathematical, and I’m good at the facts, so my wife was impressed how many chords I remembered on the guitar after many many years. But some things are really difficult! I don’t have sounds in my mind due to Aphantasia. I also struggle at doing multiple things at the same time, i.e. playing chords, keeping rhythm, and singing. So I get frustrated.
But music is also something that is just so wonderful. And it is also something my wife loves, so sharing it potentially is even more wonderful! So I am learning to not quit, although I also am learning that sometimes you have to put it down. Its a delicate balance sometimes to expose weaknesses and stretch yourself, while not getting too frustrated, which can make it the opposite of the potential wonderful it should be for us.
This balance also came into play with my job situation. It really was mostly good, and I did see that I could grow in some areas by stretching myself and not quitting. But where do you draw the line? At some point, are you quitting or wisely moving on? These questions are relevant to so many things in life for someone like me. I am good at lots of things, but I haven’t given myself a lot of chances to grow in my weaknesses.